In 2008 two close friends of mine announced that they were getting married. I had known them both separately for many years, they met at a party I threw, and I had coached them both individually and as a couple. I was honored when they asked me to perform the ceremony, but informed them that I was pretty sure there were rules about who could and couldn’t perform weddings. Their response was, “You’re smart, you’ll figure out a way.”
After a few weeks of legal research I became a minister in the Universal Life Church which satisfied the bride, the groom, and the state of Texas. In a three-month coaching agreement with them prior to the wedding we looked at the areas that might be potential sources of conflict, discovered who they were committing to being as a married couple, and defined the important messages they wanted to convey to their guests at the wedding. I enjoyed writing the ceremony and following up with them afterwards as part of honoring my commitment to their union.
A year later another person asked if I would do the same thing for her wedding. It was an honor to work with her and her fiancé to create a unique ceremony and support them in creating the intentional relationship they wanted. Since then I have been told by a number of couples that they wish they had had similar support and intentionality leading up to their weddings so I started offering this as a service. It’s a three-month coaching agreement where we look at how to ensure the strength of the marriage starting before the ceremony.
Our initial call is always free. This call is to explore what it is that you want to get out of our time together and also a bit about how my methods can produce measurable results in your performance in the areas that matter to you. If the results you want and the promises I make line up, then we can go to work!
Kim - Bride
Judith Manriquez - Coach, ICF