In 2008 two close friends of mine announced that they were getting married. I had known them both separately for many years, they met at a party I threw, and I had coached them both individually and as a couple. I was honored when they asked me to perform the ceremony, but informed them that I was pretty sure there were rules about who could and couldn’t perform weddings. Their response was, “You’re smart, you’ll figure out a way.”
After a few weeks of legal research I became a minister in the Universal Life Church which satisfied the bride, the groom, and the state of Texas. In a three-month coaching agreement with them prior to the wedding we looked at the areas that might be potential sources of conflict, discovered who they were committing to being as a married couple, and defined the important messages they wanted to convey to their guests at the wedding. I enjoyed writing the ceremony and following up with them afterwards as part of honoring my commitment to their union.
A year later another person asked if I would do the same thing for her wedding. It was an honor to work with her and her fiancé to create a unique ceremony and support them in creating the intentional relationship they wanted. Since then I have been told by a number of couples that they wish they had had similar support and intentionality leading up to their weddings so I started offering this as a service. It’s a three-month coaching agreement where we look at how to ensure the strength of the marriage starting before the ceremony.
David Fried - Owner, DKF Writing Services
Kim - Bride